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And just like that it all changes…

And just like that it all changes…

 

Recently a close friend and mentor lost his job. The abruptness of the termination, while not totally out of the blue, certainly was somewhat surprising. I could certainly go on here about the why, how unfair it is, and all the circumstances of the loss of his job, but that is not what this blog is about. My hope is the stories here will deal with how we can prepare to handle the inevitable bad that we all experience to varying degrees almost daily. The human spirit to overcome and grow from these times of misfortune is remarkable and worth celebrating through story. So, instead of dwelling on the bad and unfairness of it all, my goal is to focus on tools, resources and stories of resilience in the face of danger and fear. Not every challenge we face rises to the level of a job loss, however, any loss can jolt us to the point of derailing many aspects of our lives.

 

My personal journey of change, which took me to the path of becoming a coach, started in a similar manner as my friend. Circumstances made my job situation not the secure place I had lulled myself into believing it was. My boss of 12 years had retired, being replaced by a very different person. All that was changed and was no more. This shook me. I could not stand my new boss and everything she represented. Yes, there were some dark periods with much reflection. More importantly there was a circle of close friends. There were the tools that my coach Vince had shared. Tools which were once meant for the workplace and now adapted themselves to my personal situation. I left that job for a different company and different specialty. I refocused on myself. I prioritized many things, not work related, which I had ignored. My work with my coach continued leading me to enroll in a coaching certification program. I achieved success in my new career rather quickly. My true friends stayed with me. My marriage fell apart leaving me with 3 kids at home. No, it’s not all good and yes bad has a way of always lingering around. Ultimately my former employer recruited me back to utilize my new skills from my job and the coaching.

 

Which leads me to where I am now, extremely happy and involved in a transition from healthcare operations to coaching. I am also in an extremely fulfilling and loving new relationship. My point is if I were to run into the boss I detested and that I blamed for this spiral of change, I would likely thank her. Yes, she disrupted my world in the moment negatively. What she also did was reawaken me to what I had become and did not like. The resulting change would not have started without her. So I say thank you to her, to my true friends, to my coach, and to myself for contributing to this current phase. I like where my life is now, best of all and that just like that it all changes…….